10 Tips for Leaving the Nest Well: What I Wish I Knew When I was Going to College

There is nothing you can do to prepare yourself (or your kids) for the craziness that is college. Flying away from the nest is no easy thing, but it's also a beautiful thing. I want to share with you something I've learned in the years since I've left college, something that I've worked on with the college women I've mentored. It's probably not something you'd thing. It's also not something I the world will tell you, or you'll find out your first few days there. But I believe it's the secret to navigating this season in life well. 

There will be storms. There will be rocky times. There will be mountaintops. There will be valleys. There will be smooth times. There will be everything. So what do you need when you are being faced with everything under the sun? A rock.

This rock is something I didn't know I had access to in college, kinda like my ADD. The doctor told me in my mid-thirties, "You probably would have done a lot better in school had you know this." No kidding. I want to share this with you now, before you are further along the way...

Here it is. Yes, it's your Healthy Voice. Your Healthy Voice is the voice of unconditional love that is with you as you step into this new journey. It will be hard to hear or even believe - especially if you feel fearful or ashamed - but it is there. You've just got to listen for it. It is real. It is pure and it is not you. It's greater than you and anything you can tell yourself. It's the power of God in your life. He is your Healthy Voice, and he wants you to tune into Him. Before you roll your eyes, I want you to bear with me for a minute. If you believe me when I say to you that God will be with you this whole time, wouldn't you rather know how to access Him, rather than turn away from Him (especially if He's there anyway?)

Right. So, here's the deal. It's going to be hard to hear him so this is a list of some of the ways you can tap into His voice and power in your life. They are ways that have helped me and other young people like you, and if they can help us get peaceful - they can help you too. If you are struggling mentally or emotionally it will be especially helpful. But there is something very different about this Healthy Voice.

I am not talking to you about making sure you pray, or checking the box of going to church on Sunday. I am not talking about religion. Whatever you do in your religion, is your business. I'm talking about your relationship with God. It is more important than any other relationship you will have in your life and the sooner you connect, the more content and satisfied you will be. But the key is pursuing it. Not PERFORMING for Him. But pursuing Him, letting Him into your life and heart. That's where the magic will happen. He'll be with you in everything - your grades, your other relationships, your passion and purpose, your everything. To me, there is not better tip you can get in life than accessing the power of God in your life. So, here's the list below. When you start beating yourself up for not being good enough, you read these and get out of your head. Btw, remember that I had no idea of ANY of these when I was in college. So, even in the midst of the madness, if you can use these tips? You will be well on your way to hearing the voice of God in your life.

#1. Make a relationship with God a priority. This means finding ways to connect to him everywhere (I will give you those). Remember, it doesn't have to be about checking a box. He is with you all the time. Take a moment in the mornings just to reflect and connect to His love. Get in the Word. It will do wonders. It is powerful powerful. You can get a devotional book like Jesus Calling or the Bible App to look at the verse of the day everyday. If you do find him in church on Sundays, awesome. Try to find him everywhere the rest of the week. He wants you to know he's with you at every moment. "Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you." James 4:8 ESV

#2. Find your tribe.  They will support you, encourage you, comfort you and walk with you. They will go deep when you need to go deep. Be yourself and you'll find them. Look for the ones who have a similar faith to you and understand that God is part of your life (in relationship). Look for girls who maybe have shared parts of your brokenness with you and just get you. Know that friends are in your life for three reasons - a reason, a season or a lifetime. Sometimes it helps to repeat that to yourself when you can't figure out what's going on with a friendship. Maybe they've got drama and you can be there for them, but remember their issues are theirs and yours are yours. "As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend." Proverbs 27:17 NLT

#3. Find your place. I'm not talking about your dorm room. I'm talking about a place somewhere on campus that you can go and just be still, get away from all the madness and take a breath. It's in the stillness that we connect with God. I know at ND for a lot of people it's the grotto and the lakes, but not everywhere has a beautiful reflective place. But it doesn't have to be perfect. It just gives you peace because you are going to need it. "Then Jesus said, 'Let's go off by ourselves to a quiet place and rest for a while." Mark 6:31 NLT

#4. Get outside. Nature is going to be supremely important. It's where we get to go outside and realize in the middle of the madness, that God is bigger than all the drama or the grades and he'll take care of you. I don't care if you have to look up at the blue sky, the clouds, the rain, the grass, or a bird. Whatever you gotta do, just let nature be a part of how you connect to God. Maybe you like to walk or run outside. Maybe you have a hiking trail. Whatever you have, nature is the place you go when life is getting you down and you can say, "If God's got that bird, he's got me." "Look at the birds. They don't plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly father feeds them. And aren't you far more valuable to him than they are? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?" Matthew 6:26-27 NLT

#5. Be kind to your body. Please. Please. Please do this. When it says, your body is a temple in the Bible. It doesn't mean you are supposed to have a perfect body. It means God is in you if you believe. Your body isn't yours to push to perfection with diets, workouts, cleanses, whatever. God created you. Be nice to you. This isn't about eating perfectly. It isn't about obsessing about your body, what you put into it or how you move it. Yes, you need to move and eat well and discipline your body. But God created your body and it is beautiful. So embrace it. Be nice to it.  Know this too, it literally says in the Bible not to obsess about food. "That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life - whether you have enough food or drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn't life more than food and your body more than clothing?" Matthew 6:25 NLT and before you make exercising everything, read this: "For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come." 1 Timothy 4:8 NIV

#6. Be Gentle on Your Mind. Friends, your mind is a BATTLEFIELD. Some of us it's just some negative thoughts we've got to deal with. Others of us have been through stuff that has made our mind EXTRA hard to navigate. I'm talking about trauma that wrecks us and makes us react to everything out of the pain we haven't dealt with. Your mind will play tricks on you in this area. Do not let it. Man, did it take me a while to figure this out. It was never about my workouts or my diet, but my MIND. I had to deal with my MIND. So if you DO need t deal with yours, do NOT deal with it alone, especially if you feel like you've got some kind of mental illness. It is NOTHING to be ashamed of. That's just the stigma talking. And more importantly, once you get on the journey of mental health, it's not "fixing" your mind that works. It's getting in the Word and hearing what God says about you that holds for the long haul. "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will able to attest and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will." Romans 12:2 NIV

#7.  Don't stuff your inner pain. We've all got something that broke us or someone that hurt us. Maybe it's a friendship. Maybe it's a parent. Maybe it's an event like your parent's divorce or a death. Whatever it is, it broke your heart in some way and you've tried for a long time to fix it yourself. My friend, you gotta let yourself feel it. But you don't need to let yourself feel it alone. #1. God is there it comfort you, #2. God's put people there to comfort you, #3. You CAN get help to walk through it and know that no matter how painful God will be with you. But the further you run from it, or try to stuff it or fix it, the more it will settle in. So if you are in school and got pain you are dealing with, REACH OUT for help. I know you will be tempted to reach for the bottle or the food or the boys. But when you find they aren't satisfying you, or worse - hurting you, remember who will quench your thirst and feed you. "All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. For the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ."  2 Corinthians:1-5 NLT

#8. Find your WORTH. Not in things or in grades or in friends or in social status or in your likes on your social media page. Find it in Christ. If you don't believe me, here's a song and a video you HAVE to watch.  You Are More

So instead of trying to fix you to be good enough, let HIM love you and help you realize you are more.

Here are two verses for you with this: "For I know the pans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11 ESV

"But he said to me,'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me." 2 Corinthians 12:9 ESV

#8. BE a Light and SEEK the light. I mentioned this earlier but it's supremely important. You aren't alone. In your life, there will always be people walking it with you. Some will be a little behind you. Some will be right beside you. Some are far enough ahead that they can mentor you or coach you through this crazy time in your life. Help those who are a little behind you. Be a light in the darkness. Encourage those who walk beside you, and not only that - lean on each other. Do not stay in your head, or stuck in your feelings, or in your stress for too long! Talk to you friend who you trust the most! There will be some others who know you the most and can remind you of who you are. Stay connected to them. And then there will be those who see your potential in you more than you, and can guide you through the process. Do no hesitate to find a mentor or a Life coach to guide you. There is no reason to muscle your way through this alone. "No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father." Matthew 5:15-16 NLT

#9. Find a place to worship God through Music and Fellowship. Although I'm smack dab in between Generation X and Millennials, I relate most to Millennials to I'm just going to reference "us" in this one because music is an area where I feel most connected to you guys. We all know that our generation is into music. We live for it. We connect through it.  It's not just about music choice. It's about what music moves you. Here's the other thing. What you listen to affects you. I know it's hard not to listen to all the booty shaking music in college, but in your own time, a great way to connect to God is through music. If you haven't heard of Hillsong United, just find them on Spotify and start listening. Your soul will move. I can listen to their music anywhere and spend time in God's presence. That's what worship is all about. Spending time in God's presence. If you can find a church or a fellowship on campus where you can do that, awesome. Even better, because you are doing it in community. God wants us in community, not alone on the journey. But make sure if you find a place, it fits you. If religion and repetition, doesn't, there is another place. Find music. That's what captured my soul even deeper for God. Music. Don't underestimate it. "Worship the Lord with gladness. Come before him singing with joy." Psalm 100:2 NLT

#10. MOST IMPORTANTLY, and this will be so hard to do, but - do your best to focus on God. Keep going back to Him as you source. Yes it will be hard, but the more you do it, the more you will realize only He can satisfy your thirst and hunger. These verses should help you with that. 

"Jesus said to them, 'I am the bread of life; he who comes to Me will not hunger, and he who believes in Me will never thirst." John 6:35

"He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said,'From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.'" John 7:38

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take." Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT

"Therefore since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up.  And let us run with endurance the race that God has set before us.  We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, endured the cross, disregarding it's shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God's throne." Hebrews 12:1-2 NLT

GODSPEED FRIENDS AND HAVE A GREAT SCHOOL YEAR STUDENTS!! PARENTS, Hope this helps you too for your own journey! Please come back this semester for more good stuff geared towards you!!

 

 

What a Stand-Up Paddle Board Taught Me About Trusting God

Hello!!! Guess what, I'm alive. Been behind the scenes and happily off Facebook for a bit. It has been so nice. One of the things I've done is write a few summer blogs for you until the Podcast is up. So I hope this one gives you a little inspiration. 

How many of you have ridden a Stand Up paddle board? Well, I just started riding the one I got a few weeks ago at the lake and loved it. Loved it in the sense that I grew to love it. I knew it was going to be hard to get up and balance, especially on the unpredictable waves of Lake Michigan. I was up to the challenge, but I had to step out and step away from the shore.

It's kinda like the time I've had off Facebook. It's become so normal to just post on Facebook and scroll the news feed for all of us. It feels funky to be off it, like you aren't with the "in" crows. But it's freeing. It's almost like we've become numb to the effects of it on our life that we forget who we are without it. Let me tell you, I haven't now! (Another blog - gonna be good).

Anyway, so this SUP (Stand up Paddle) board experience. I am not the queen of balance, (kinda like life). Who is anyway? So the first day I go out and get up. I fall within a minute. I get up again and fall within 2. Then 3. Then 4. I had to have the board turned just so - so that I wouldn't moved across the harbor with the waves. Let's just say it was frustrating. Thankfully my husband was out there hanging out with me on the kayak, watching me get up and fall down, get up and fall down. Sometimes I'd fall forward and the board would fly behind me. The board would move so fast, he'd paddle across the water pretty far to grab it and bring it back cause I couldn't get to it fast enough. One time I fell backwards and got a lovely bruise in the middle of my back. Totally worth it. Another time? Lost my favorite white sunglasses. Tried to go back and find them, never did. 

But I went out again the next day and didn't give up. I was stronger, able to balance better. I think barre played a huge part in keeping me up there. (Thank you Tammy Weisweaver) This day the water was rougher than I thought. I could not get up and stay on the board at all. So we went out on the kayak instead (another story.) The next day I was stronger, cruising along for a few minutes at a time. I felt like a rock star. lol 

A few days later we were heading back home and I wished I had gotten out on the water again but the weather kept me from it. So we're driving down Grand Traverse Bay and it is just beautiful out. I made a decision to turn around and stay another day, and it was the best decision I could have made. It wasn't just because I had another day on the water and got some writing done. But because I woke up that next day to see the lake more still than I'd seen it in two weeks.

I remarked to my mother-in-law, "I have GOT to get out on that lake." So I went to the basement, hauled that board down to the water and got on that puppy. Let me tell you - nailed it. 

I got up on that board and never once fell. I got up with reasonable grace. I stayed up on that thing for over an hour. I laid down on it just looking out at the Manitous.

A view of my time on the water from land.

A view of my time on the water from land.

I did an Upward Dog. I did a Downward Dog. Didn't quite make Warrior, but next time. I was moving on that lake feeling totally connected to God through nature in front of me and below me. It felt like the living demonstration of being still and knowing God. It took complete trust to stay up that long, over every wave knowing that even if I fell God would be there when I got back up.

So I found myself singing the song, "Oceans" by Hillsong. If you don't know it, HERE it is

You call me out upon the waters
The great unknown where feet may fail
And there I find you in the mystery
In oceans deep
My faith will stand

And I will call upon your name
And keep my eyes above the waves
When oceans rise
My soul will rest in Your embrace
For I am yours and You are mine....

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior

I was literally singing this this to myself as I glided along. It was so very cool. It reminded me of how much I want to trust God, how much I want to trust Him to take me deeper than I could ever be on the shore.

Then I realized that He was using this board to teach me something. He was reminding me that because of Him I don't ever have to get up. God is the one who gives me the courage to keep getting back up, no matter how many times I fall. It reminded me of all those times in life that I've been challenged, God gave me the strength to get back up. It was this God confidence that I could never get on my own.

You know what else I learned? That life IS all about balance. But it doesn't always mean perfect balance. Some days we feel pretty balanced because things are going pretty smooth. Other times we're trying desperately to hold on as the waves come. It's a miracle we don't fall off. Then there are the times where pretty quickly we are completely thrown off. But we come up from the water, and we give it another shot. Or we say, today's not the day. But tomorrow I'll get up and give it another shot. You just never give up. Why? Because every time you get up, you get stronger. So the more you trust, the more you step out, the more courage you'll have to keep stepping out of that comfort zone.

So what if we fall off? So what if we look goofy trying to get back up? We're doing it. That's what matters most.  We get up. We fall down. We fall down again. But we keep getting back up. 

I think that time on the lake is what gave me the inspiration to step away from Facebook a bit and see how it affects me, affects us - to maybe help all of us realize we may just be giving it a little too much power over our life. That time on that SUP showed me how much more I want to fix me eyes on Jesus than a news feed. It showed me how much more I want to do God's will, than what everyone else is doing on their news feed. I know I won't be able to completely avoid it, because I do believe that there is a need for good content on there. I will just be working to fix me eyes on Jesus a lot more. Anything I can do to know Him more. God wants my time more than anyone else, and I want to be obedient. 

So, I'm going to remember this time on Lake Michigan with this SUP where I learned that I can go deeper - "where my trust is without borders, where my faith can be made stronger." I can leave the rest up to God because no matter how much my mind fights me, or the water gets rough, or the storms come - God is with me. He is with you too. 

Today's Bible verse was from Deuteronomy 31. It spoke of when Moses was handing over the leadership reigns. Moses said to all of Israel in verses 6-8 NIV

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Then Moses summoned Joshua and said to him in the presence of all Israel, Be strong and courageous, for you must go with this people into the land that the Lord swore to their ancestors to give them, and you must divide it among them as their inheritance. The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.

 

What's your Stand UP Paddle Board story? How are you going to step out and trust that He's got you?

One more thing, you know what that gave me the courage to do? Step out in faith in another area of my life. Tomorrow at the crack of dawn I'll be heading to Charlotte, North Carolina for the "She Speaks" Christian Writers Conference, and I cannot WAIT. I'm trusting that God's got this call and all I have to do? Is step out in faith. 

All you've got to do - is step out in faith.

"Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties." Eric Fromm

You Can Have Victory Over Envy

I just noticed that last week's message was on comparison and this week is envy. Must be that time of year! I hope you enjoy today's message and it helps you in some way! Shout out to my friend Tammy Weisweaver (pictured here at the conference yesterday), and here's her barre studio if you want to check it out! (For all you out of towners - she's got online classes too!) B Present.

If you haven't checked it out, go to a class at her studio and see how she shines. Walk through your envy and defeat the lie of the enemy!

Here are a few resources that I mentioned plus 2 songs

"True Confidence has no room for jealousy and envy. When you know you are great, you have no reason to hate." - Unknown

"With envy out of the way you'll have more rom for your own greatness." - Danielle LaPorte #truthbomb

Your verses are:

James 3:16 AMP

"For wherever there is jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry and selfish ambition) there will also be confusion (unrest, disharmony, rebellion) and all sorts of evil and vile practices."

Hebrews 10:19-25 AMP

A Call to Persevere in Faith

Therefore, brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

For some reason this is the song that kept playing in my head when Tammy talked about how we're made to fly and the second one is one I've never heard. What AN AWESOME SONG!!

 

 

Comparison 2.0: To Moms, Young People & 2016 Graduates

The One Key to Overcoming Comparison

It doesn’t matter what stage of life you are in friends - college student, 20 something, 30 something, working mom, stay at home mom, single mom, grandmother - it doesn’t matter. We are all confronted with this comparison thing. The difference is in what we do with it. Are you going to sit in it and have a pity party? Or are you going to recognize it's the enemy playing a trick on you, trying to divert you from your focus?

Will you choose to focus on God's plan for someone else that has nothing to do with His plan for you? Or will you focus on Him and let Him show you His beautiful plan for your life...that one that's already unfolding?

Here's the deeper part from the message I heard at church on Sunday: The roots of comparison we have go back to when we were kids. Whatever we thought was our disadvantage, is the barometer we used to compare our walk to someone else's. I know I had two, and every time I get insecure today somehow it relates back to how I felt with these two - struggle with weight and being a child of divorce. I am NO longer a victim of either of those, no matter what the circumstance. But let me tell you, my insecurity about them kept me lost and addicted for a long time. As Pastor Bob said, he kept that comparison and resentment in his heart for over 20 years. I get that. I was brought not only back to childhood but back to my first day at Notre Dame when the only thing that repeated in my head was "I'm the only one overweight." "I'm the only one with divorced parents." Wrong. It's no wonder I dove into the drink believing that.

Believe who GOD says you are. This is especially for you graduates. There will be many opportunities to compare yourself to others in many areas I won't even get into. If it shakes you, don't let it break you. Get away and figure out who God says you are by getting in the Word or downloading the Bible App. He will show you who you are to Him. You will get all the advice in the world to follow your dreams and create a perfect life. It is good to have dreams. But it is better to have something to fall back on when they don't work out. Oh and it's not a bad thing if they don't because failures are what make you a success. Failures, contrary to popular belief, are the greatest lessons. You know the road will get tough so just remember when you are comparing. Wait a minute and remember this: I can seek the only one who truly knows me. The sooner you get that the world will always give you reasons to compare and tell you that you aren't enough - the sooner you can find the one who will always tell you the opposite. Just know that NO one has it all figured out. No one is beating you in the race of life. God's got you EXACTLY where you are supposed to be and he is walking with you if you let yourself notice Him. So as soon as you say, "Well I don't have that," think of all the things you DO have. Think of the fact that God designed you JUST as you are for a specific purpose and no one can take that away from you. 

This image is courtesy of Elephant Adventure and my friend Margaret Sheyka Stough who posted it on my page.

This image is courtesy of Elephant Adventure and my friend Margaret Sheyka Stough who posted it on my page.

Here are the resources I mentioned below that can help you work through this a little bit more.....

2) A great article called "Find Contentment by Killing Comparisons", by Anne Peterson from Christianity Today speaks to that comparison game we play on Facebook.

3) Another great article called, "The Life and Death of the Proverbs 31 Woman" by John Greco from In Touch Ministries.

4) Verses

Romans 12:2 says it best. I like the NLT,

"Don't copy the behavior and customs of the world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect."

John 16:33 NIV

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."

Hebrews 12:2 NIV

"fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God."

And a song that may not help you now but maybe one day. Heard it last week and it was just perfect.

 Bonus song:

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Willingness to Let Go of Our Weakness

Here is your message via audio this week! 

Additional Resources Mentioned...

Here's where you can go to find Steven Furtick's book and watch some of his messages. The Book is called "Unqualified."

Here is Joyce Meyer's message, "No Weapon Formed Against You Shall Prosper." It's actually the second part of 2 and I highly recommend watching the other one as well. 

Verse of the Day from the Bible App:

"When I said, "My foot is slipping, your unfailing love, Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy. - Psalm 94:18-19

Other verses from the message:

Hebrews 12:1-2 NLT

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne.

Philippians 3:12-14 NIV

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

And one more thing - 2 bonus songs. The first is speaking to me this week with this message and the second is a website that plays a song a friend sent to me and said, "How Healthy Voice is this?!" So take a watch or listen.

The second is an artist named Eric Peters. His song is called "Farthest Shore" and you can listen to it, learn more about him on his website.

He's got a beautiful voice and I love what it says right on the front of his website, "Eric has a soft spot for folks who, like him, struggle with anxiety, depression and are in recovery." 

Okay that should be enough to keep you busy!! Have a good week all!

 

 

 

 

Why You Don't Belong in a Box. You Belong to God.

Earlier this week I posted something on Facebook about boxes, what they are in our life and how it's okay if we don't fit into one. That's what I'm talking about in today's video. What I want to connect it to is honesty. 

I have been hearing messages all week about being honest. I try to live my life as open and honest as I can. But I'm human, so of course I'll find stuff that I'm not being honest about and call myself out on it - whether it's holding onto old pain I'm scared to share, or it's something small in my everyday life today. Either way, being honest and facing our stuff - big or small, is not easy. I think it's difficult because it cuts right to our deepest gut level pain - I mean the stuff that goes way deep, or way back. We keep much of it inside because we're afraid of rejection if we ARE honest in the crazy, tough world. And forget it if we do share and we get rejected, then we just want to craw in a hole - or a box, and hide. But, it's so much better to get it out, which is what I hope today's message and my honesty will help you get to.

This week in her videos, Joyce Meyer talks about the sexual abuse she suffered as a kid. It's ugly stuff. It's almost tough to watch. But it's necessary. It's necessary for her to heal and for God to work THROUGH her so others can heal from their pain too. It is very powerful stuff. It's not for everyone, and not for every venue, but it is - for those who are willing to be honest with themselves. (If you are willing, you can watch the series from this week here on her website. I have her app which is great too. "One Life: Part 1 and 2" are the ones you want to watch.

If you think right now about those things you may not be honest about, maybe there are obvious. Maybe they are so deep, you haven't faced them in years. But you've got to get them out because they make us hide our light thinking we're protecting ourselves from the darkness when we're actually keeping ourselves in the darkness (of our box.) 

If you keep it inside you, self-defeat is waiting in the wings. But you don't have to do that. #1  We have a God who loves us and wants to heal us. #2 He wants us to help each other. Read the verse below. 

Therefore, confess your sins to one another [your false steps, your offenses], and pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored. The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power].
— James 5:16 AMP

We have created boxes in our lives. Somehow others seem to have the prettier ones, the ones that fit better in this world (or so we think) and we wonder why ours don't match. But the truth is we were never meant to fit into their boxes or into our own box we've created for ourselves.

We don't belong in a box. We belong to God. Drop your box. Drop your idea of the boxes everyone else has, or thinking you have to fit into what someone else thinks is right for your life and just be you. Let God make you who he wants you to be. 

Here's an image you can download to remind you.

Also, reflect on this music video. Love this artist and song, but heard it at about 8am coming out of a workout class yesterday morning and it just got me. Maybe it will help you process where you are at.

 

 

 

How to See Music and Nature as Gifts from God

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