Do You Know You Are Beautiful? Thoughts After the #KylieJennerLipChallenge

Courtesy of us magazine.com.

Courtesy of us magazine.com.

Did you see all the fuss last week about Kylie Jenner's lips? They called it the #KylieJennerLipChallenge. The internet was jammed with images and stories of kids who'd taken the challenge - to put a cup over their lips so their lips could look something like hers. Some of the photos were literally brutal. Cosmo magazine (of all places) highlighted "The Best Way to Attempt the Kylie Jenner Challenge"which showed a pretty interesting and hilarious way of participating in it. Here, another article in the Washington Post talked about it's dangers. These articles were just a few of many highlighting the extent people went to and how much you can tell the media just loved covering it.

Now, Kylie Jenner said herself in response to this that her lips are natural. I mean - obvi. Have you seen her family? 

I think that Kylie Jenner is beautiful. Of course! But she is her OWN kind of beautiful. She is not THE template for beautiful. She's just beautiful. Period.

Hello ---YOU are your own kind of beautiful --- yes, you. Anyway....

I tried to find on the internet where and who started this whole challenge. I couldn't find it. What that tells me it was a trend started by much of the under 17 crowd who religiously watch Keeping up with the Kardashians (#KUWTK). They want to look like a Kardashian so bad, that they'll ruin the structure of their face and lips just to make the attempt. Mind you - these are pre-teens and teenagers doing this. 

This challenge/trend last week showed me that we truly are "surface beauty obsessed," and the worst part about it - is that the proof is coming from mostly our next generation. This is just a sign of where we are showing them where to steer their ship - to value outer beauty over anything, and to do anything you can to get it - even give yourself a bruise on your face.

The problem with this is that we aren't just negating out own innate and inner beauty, we're defying it. We're not just looking at someone else's beauty wanting to have it, we're hurting ourselves to get it. I'm telling you - this is not what God meant for us, and it's certainly not what he meant for our future generations. Of course maintaining outer beauty is one thing. I'm not saying not to wear makeup or get your haircut, or do other things to accentuate your beauty. But we've got a problem if we're attempting to disfigure ourselves so we can look like someone else.

There is a saying, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder." It basically means everybody has a unique idea of what it means to be beautiful. Meaning - it's all relative. Meaning - what one person thinks is beautiful, another person thinks it's kinda beautiful or outright ugly. So why are we trying so hard to be who we are not, to be someone other than ourselves? In the words of Colbie Caillat, "You don't have to try!"

You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing
— "Try", Colbie Caillat

 

Attempting to fix that insecure Unhealthy Voice that says, "I'm not beautiful enough," just like any other voice like it - is never going to BE enough. Just BE YOU!!! Be You-tiful!!

Seriously ---

Do you have any idea how beautiful you are - no matter WHAT? No matter what you think, feel, see in the mirror. No matter WHAT anyone else sees, thinks or feels about your beauty - it does not matter. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.  Period. 

Even at the times when you don't feel beautiful - you ARE Beautiful.

I know you don't feel it or think it sometimes, but it is TRUE. Each of us is uniquely beautiful and there is no standard of beauty in the world. Beauty is an INSIDE JOB. It shines from the inside out.

So no matter how hard you try to make yourself beautiful according to the world - your Healthy Voice, the God who loved you and created you wants you to KNOW It like you know your name.

He gave me these words to say to yourself the next time you look in the mirror:-

"You are beautiful to me and that's what matters. Even before you tried to change your outside, I knew you as beautiful - because I created you. No amount of attempts to change your beauty or improve it will ever be enough. None of them will ever fill you up on the inside. So when you wonder why you've tried everything and you don't feel beautiful - look inside and remember that I created you JUST as you are to be the beautiful person you are. You don't have to change a single thing because I love you and made you to be the beautiful person you are right now."

I found this awesome verse in the Amplified Bible that truly sums up the Truth:

He has made everything beautiful in it’s time. He has also planted eternity in man’s hearts and minds [a divinely implanted sense of purpose working through the ages which nothing under the sun but God alone can satisfy], yet so that men cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.
— Ecclesiastes 3:11 AMP

Tonight, I get to go and echo this message at a local salon called Emblazon Salon. If you live local, you are welcome to come join us! Here's the link. I can't wait to talk about the Healthy Voice as it relates to how we define beauty in our lives. Tomorrow check back as I'll be posting the Beautiful You Tube Playlist I've been listening to while I create the content this week. Wednesday I'll be delivering another video message about how this message was one I needed to hear myself at this particular time and what God showed me in his Truth.

You guys have an awesome week and if this message helped you in any way, please post or forward it to your friends who need to hear it as much as you!!