How many of you have kids starting school today?
And how many of you went on Facebook and tortured yourself a little - criticizing or comparing other moms who posted pics? I know, I get you!
I don't know if you know this, but Facebook has a tendency to do that...which is exactly why I want to speak right into you.
You may feel broken, like you are this imperfect parent (or student) starting this school year - like someone else has it more together and you just don't.
Okay, that's just not true.
You are being hard on yourself and using your Unhealthy Voice as your bat.
Think about your kids. Think about your parents if you are a student. Would they want you to be beating yourself up like that? I bet not.
So - here's the deal. You got an Unhealthy Voice. We have ALL got an Unhealthy Voice.
It's ugly and it completely ATTACKS our brokenness. It takes a stab when we're down. It loves our brokenness, but not in a good way. So we've got to fight it, and the best way we can do that is to get in the Word and give it to God, to see where He is in those broken places.
The absolute BEST thing you can do for your kids, those that love you, is to not try to stuff down your insecurity or "fix" it alone on the surface trying to keep it all together.
Let God into it with you.
You wouldn't want your kid to face a bully at school. Don't be your own bully.
Show them how they can depend on God. But do that by depending on God yourself and going deeper in your relationship with Him. Don't tell them. Just walk in it. Get in a small group because you need friends to do life together, not just get a good body together.
Think about your goals are as your kids start this year cause no matter how cute their outfits are, how packed their schedules are, or how good their grades are - their worth rests in none of that. It rests in God. Show them that, especially on the days when it stinks and they get made fun of. They need to know truth. And we need to know - it's not our job to save them, but to lead them towards the light. So, don't try to save them and don't try to mold them, or make them who you didn't get to be. They are themselves.
I read in a devotional this morning, "God listens and accepts me as I am. God doesn't give advice. God knows that learning comes only from experience - experience I am not led to until I'm ready." This is true for everyone. We'll learn when we experience. They will learn as they experience school this year. We will learn as we walk with them.
So my question for you - is are you going to try to achieve, "I got it all together"? or are you going to be real. As you adjust your schedule for this new phase of the journey - consider it. Consider being real cause we are ALL broken. Take the pressure off and let God into your brokenness. And oh - one of the best ways to do that is to look at your workout and your diet. Are you determined to get that all "perfect"? or do you want to see what's there on a deeper level?
Intentional verses for Reflection:
2 Corinthians 4:7-12
But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may always be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.