7 Tips to Help You Navigate the Turkey Day Triggers

Hello all! Happy almost Thanksgiving! Today's message is for all of you who will have some aspect of your day tomorrow that is triggering to you. It can really stink when one of these grabs us because it can take us for a ride that has us drowning ourselves in food or self-pity. I don't want that for you. That's why I put together a list of things you can do as soon as you recognize those triggers. Just so you know, I'll probably be using them too because you gotta practice what you preach!

Identify the Trigger

Definition: anything that serves as a stimulus and initiates or precipitates a reaction or series of reactions.

Is it the food staring at you? Is it your crazy aunt or annoying family member? Is it old feelings coming up about something? Is it a whirlwind of emotions that have you missing your loved one who has passed every five minutes? Or is it your insecurities that so easily pop up around family? Or is that sweet little Unhealthy Voice that made you go lurk on Facebook and now you have lost it because you saw something that triggered you that someone has or did? 

Triggered? Call it out. Point it out. Write it out. Whatever you need to do to get it out.

Do Something with It

#1. Give yourself a time out. Step away from the reaction internally, or walk away if you have to.

#2. Do a gratitude check. Where are you at with recognizing the good in this day? Or are you totally focusing on the trigger and letting it ruin your day?

#3. Give thanks to God. Sometimes when we're fighting the hardest inside, the best thing we can do is praise God in the storm and trust that He is carrying is through it.

#4. Practice Acceptance. Just say to yourself the world acceptance and it will force you to recognize everything about the person or situation you cannot change.

#5. Remember, this too shall pass. Enough said.

#6. Set some boundaries. Let other people keep their messy platters of issues. You got enough of your own and don't need to dive into theirs!

#7. Pray AHEAD of time. Don't wait till you are in the middle of it. Pray for God to guide you through the day and ask him to help you!

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For You Who Struggles Extra This Thanksgiving Holiday

The table you are invited to that I mentioned in the video is God's table. When all those triggers don't make us feel loved, or we feel just plain alone we have to remember that there IS a table we are invited to and the Bible shows us that in Matthew 9:9-12:

As Jesus was walking along, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at his tax collector’s booth. “Follow me and be my disciple,” Jesus said to him. So Matthew got up and followed him.

Later, Matthew invited Jesus and his disciples to his home as dinner guests, along with many tax collectors and other disreputable sinners. But when the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with such scum?”

When Jesus heard this, he said, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do.” Then he added, “Now go and learn the meaning of this Scripture: ‘I want you to show mercy, not offer sacrifices.For I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.”

See, it's not the people who think they belong at the table that Jesus came to save. It's the people who had messed up and didn't believe Jesus wanted anything to do with them. So if you on this holiday feel that way, Jesus wants you to come to the table. And if you need a little bit more to convince you, listen to this song and see what I mean. Sit down, close your eyes and listen to these lyrics.